Ah dating, who doesn't love meeting someone new? The fun adventurous stage where you really can't see that persons flaws. There are dinners, movies, and all kinds of fun activities. Long gone are the days when you would pick up the phone and call someone to hangout. No one would even dream of surprising anyone in this day and age because we are constantly on the move. Below, I talk about texting, social media and just idiotic modern day relationship problems. Enjoy.
I by no means am a super emotional, lovey-dovey girl. I don't even like having boyfriends, I prefer dates. So why then would I dislike detachment - here's why. Relationships and dating don't have to be a Titanic sort of love, but there should be some mutual investment into this thing. Both parties should at least like the other person and have SOME interest in them. Now though with all of this social media, we can keep everyone at distance and still pretend we have meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Did you learn more about him from his Tinder and Facebook profile than from talking over coffee? Yea, probably not the best start.
Texting also causes stress in relationships. The whole should-I-double-text, or not texting back until hours later are stupid and childish. If you want to text someone fucking text them. Put your big girl (or big boy) pants on and text them - if you have something to say. A Hey-What's up-Nothing u-Not much conversation is dumb. Texting also makes planning easy, yet so so so difficult. The idea of maybe had become to okay with people. Maybe I will hangout with you, unless something better comes along. Just commit to hanging out, if it sucks you have a great story and if it doesn't then you had a good time.
Learn what is healthy. I am all for freedom and if you want to do that hey more power to ya honey. HOWEVER if you get emotionally attached to every boy you "hook-up" with, maybe you aren't that unemotional girl you thought you were, sorry. If you like doing that, I fully respect it, it's your body girl! (or boy I guess)
If you are with someone who doesn't make you feel good, LEAVE. Do not, I repeat DO NOT waste your best years on some asshole who you think at the time "understand you". If he really understood you, you would be happy and not constantly second guessing why you are in this relationship.
Social Media has also caused people to put their "best face forward" - It isn't all true and even if it is, thats not what they do all the time.
However, although I might whine and moan about all of these issues, social media is here to stay. So let's just all relax a little and enjoy life. Let things happen, and if you want to double text, fucking double text.
Hope you all enjoyed my little rant about social media. I'd love to hear your comments and feedback. xoxo loves